Sex!
Posted by CM under Ornithology, Writing on Sun 3 Dec 2006
s I mentioned, I write nonconsecutively. I’ve now finished:
- The first three chapters
- The first kiss
- The first time they have sex
- And a bit of the epilogue.
All things considered, this is about 25% of the novel. It’s not 25% of the word count; knowing how I write, my revision passes will probably increase the word-count by at least 20% or so. Incidentally, in case you’re curious, this means that about 8% of the novel, so far, is spent on sex and foreplay.
The next thing, I think, to work on is the chapter after the first time they have sex. It’s a tricky chapter for me to write. Also, I’ve been having difficulties writing Chapter 4 (hence all that other work on other chapters). Then I realized: bingo, it’s because nothing happens in chapter four except: they meet, and one person doesn’t say anything. Easy solution: They don’t meet. He still doesn’t say anything. Far superior, and probably advances that storyline more than anything else.
But I’m inordinately proud of myself for having finished a sex scene. Not that it’s particuarly good, mind you. But it’s a sex scene, and I wrote it. I wasn’t sure I could. There are obvious problems with the scene–she starts off wearing very little clothing–and I’m not even sure the premise is entirely believable. But some of the unbelievability, I think, stems from the problem of writing regency-set historical romances in the modern day and age. Here is a comprehensive list of impossibilities in romance novels acceded to by virtually every romance author:
- It’s always good. She’s a virgin? There may be a little pain, and a bit of blood. Luckily, she rides horses, and so… He’s a virgin? He’s a natural. There’s no fumbling, no embarrassing lack of appropriate lubrication (not even in the era before they started manufacturing substitutes), no difficulties finding a rhythm, no premature ejaculation.
- Except if it’s sex with someone not the hero. Then the sex is bad.
- He’s a rubber octopus. I don’t know how many times I’ve read about heroes banging the girl at just the right angle, while sucking her nipples, kissing her, and rubbing her clitorus with their fingers. Don’t these guys need leverage? Support? And where do their fingers fit if they’re pounding away so hard?
- Corollary: direct pressure on the clitorus in a romance novel makes her come. Instantly.
- Clothing. It comes off easily. Nobody ever curses at the bra strap or the stays. Instead, they press the magic button and everything slips off. Amazing.
- Exception: there may be a great many buttons. If a romance author shows a dress done up with a hundred buttons in the back, it is guaranteed that said dress will lose 20% of those buttons as he shreds it.
- Leverage. Friction.
- Nobody’s arms ever get tired. Not even after doing push-ups for hours in a row.
- And then there’s the Lake Wobegon effect for penises. Everyone’s above average.
I’m totally okay with all that. Why? Because it’s fantasy, and the fantasy is that the sex is hot. Nobody wants to read about the small-dicked guy that gets laid despite his poor sexual performance.
Also, it’s really hard to refer to the guy’s penis. If you’re writing sex, he kinda has to use it. In the romance vernacular, however, “penis” is usually referred to as “his turgid” something. His turgid staff. His turgid rod. His turgid woman-lover. You get the idea. I find the word “turgid” to be every unsexy. Turgid makes me think “turgid prose.” Which, um, is often the case as well. So there are some issues referring to penises. And vaginas.
Part of what made writing my sex scene so fun, though, is that I really felt it worked with my characters. I really hate the novels that have beautiful characterization right up until the hero and heroine start macking, at which point you can throw bags over their heads and change them for any two other hot people in the universe. I’m a big believer in individualized sex. And so I managed to cook up some foreplay that was more fun to write than anything I’ve done so far in this story. Does it fly? I’m not sure. But maybe, just maybe, it levitates.









December 3rd, 2006 at 2:12 pm
I want to read this scene.
I read a book yesterday that had me wondering at the impossibilty of its anatomical correctness…rubber octopus indeed, but the heroine undoubtedly enjoyed herself. As did I, once I decided to just go with the flow and not attempt to ever try it myself at my advanced age. It’s just fiction with friction.
December 3rd, 2006 at 4:36 pm
LOL… reminds me of the thread on FanLit Forever where we talked about the names of different organs. I chose to say “He thrust his bulging tally whacker deep inside her hot juicy love tunnel”
In all seriousness though, I discovered a book on amazon.com.
The Joy of Writing Sex: A Guide for Fiction Writers by Elizabeth Benedict
I haven’t had a chance to read this book, but because I struggle with my love scenes, I decided to give it a try. I will more than likely review it on my blog when I receive it.
December 4th, 2006 at 3:20 pm
It kills me to run across places where the writer says something about how sex is sex is sex. It is not! One man does not do it the same way as another. I can’t help but think the writers who say otherwise haven’t been around much.
Alice
December 4th, 2006 at 4:46 pm
Amen, Alice.
Let me add that sex isn’t even sex isn’t even sex with the same person. Or, at least, it shouldn’t be.
These are the same people who say “size doesn’t matter.” Of course size matters. Anyone who says otherwise is lying to protect a man’s ego. Size is not dispositive, mind you. But it makes a difference.
December 5th, 2006 at 10:36 am
Speaking of words for penises in Regency and other historical settings, here’s one of my favoritest websites:
http://www.lacydanes.com/historicalsexfacts.php
There are some synonyms for turgid members that were actually used that will make you laugh until you cry.
I got quite a bit of mileage out of the words on this site in a post-sex scene during which my hero and heroine have a good laugh about slang words for male genitalia. That scene was actually much more fun to write than the sex itself!
December 5th, 2006 at 10:48 am
OMG, Jacqueline! That site is quite an education!
December 5th, 2006 at 2:11 pm
Now I’m out to take a look at the site — I need a good laugh today as we’re going in for family Christmas portraits tonight. Impossible to get everyone to look at the camera and smile simultaneously and I truly believe having portraits taken is more stressful than a root canal.
Can’t wait to read your love scene. The first one I wrote, I think I blushed through the whole thing!
December 5th, 2006 at 2:39 pm
Glad you enjoyed, Tessa.
I found a way to work “potato finger” into my manuscript. I was so proud of myself *g!
And Pam, I suggest you all say potato finger during your photo. Guaranteed to make you smile!
December 6th, 2006 at 12:39 am
Damn, Jacqueline posted it first. That site is KILLER. And having just written a love scene myself, I can agree that sometimes it can be difficult keeping his hands in realistic places. Can’t we just stick with the fantasy???
NO, of course not. I won’t tell you how I solved this problem but it was fun!
December 6th, 2006 at 10:46 am
Courtney this post was hilarious! I would love to read what you have written so far- all the good parts!
Personally, I don’t like it when the hero rips the heroines dress/shift/nightgown off. I mean, come on. All I can think about is how much these things cost and all the starving children who can’t eat. lol.
While I am all for passion, I would be annoyed at my husband if he started ruining my wardrobe.
December 12th, 2006 at 9:41 am
glad you all like my site!
I had such a hard time when I started writing regency set sex. I looked everywhere for words they would have used and knew others would benifit from them. I too laugh at the names. I think Bald Headed Hermit is my fav though!
Lacy.
http://www.Lacydanes.com
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