one of the things I’ve been, well, not really struggling with, but at least wary of, has to do with my hero.

Yes, he’s a beta.  And yes, he’s smart, and one of the reasons my heroine eventually falls in love with him is that, having observed one small link in a chain of  interactions, he can sight clear to the end, and see what’s really bothering her.  In short, when everyone else in the world thinks she’s crazy, he understands her.  This means I can’t ever really rely on plot devices like his not understanding her, or willfully misunderstanding things that she says.  Other people can do that, but my hero?  No; he’s just not that kind of guy.  He gets her.  Given enough information, and the inclination, he’d get anyone and anything.  (As you can imagine, “inclination” is important.)
(There’s a certain idea out there that incredibly smart people–uber-people–cannot be people people.  There’s truth to that in some ways, but in other ways, some of the incredibly smart people I have known are often very good at figuring others out.  They can’t help it.  Other people are a problem, and you put it in front of them, and the mind whirs and it spits out an answer.  It doesn’t mean that they’re always right, but they often have great insights.)
But I have to balance this against the fact that he’s also absolutely obsessive about his own interests, and finds society (and the ton) completely baffling.  He never gets the rules of etiquette.  He finds the rules of precedence mind-boggling.  He’s vaguely aware of the dictates of propriety, but assumes that other people will make sure that no lines are crossed, and never bothers to think about it.  If he really wanted, he could probably figure all that stuff out, but he can’t be bothered, because it would take valuable brain time and energy from the subjects he’d rather think about.  So for the most part, he’s happy not to waste brain cells thinking about people.
And in the blackest of black moments–coming up shortly–he does have to not understand the heroine.  And that is what makes it so black for her.  Up until now, he’s understood everything without her saying more than a few words.  Nobody else sees what she wants, or understands why she’s bothered.  But he understands.  But at some point, he has to have the inclination to understand, and the information.  And he’s got to miss it, completely.
I suspect I am bebothering myself with something that nobody else will care about, given that (as my critique partners can attest) I freak out about truly minor factual inconsistencies that nobody else in their right mind would possibly care about.  But it does matter to me that this make sense.  In any event, his reaction turns entirely on the mind-projection fallacy—something that he, for all his smarts, is prone to.

The mind-projection fallacy is something all romance writers are familiar with, though probably not by that name.  The mind-projection fallacy assumes that your view of the world is factual.  That is, you project your mind on to other people.  Examples of the mind-projection fallacy are things like, “That book sucks.  Why is it a best-seller?” and “She’s so ugly.  Why do all the guys like her?” and (less obviously, and more controversially) “We can’t know the position and velocity of a particle exactly; therefore the position and velocity are delocalized.”

I don’t know what romance writers would do without the mind-projection fallacy.  But according to a reasonably reliable source, it’s a linguistic artifact.  !!  Exclamation points!!!111!!!one!  I’ve heard it claimed that it happens because in English you can state opinion as if it were fact, and that other languages–the one named was Turkish–make such statements impossible.

Now, I already know that I think differently in different languages (and I only speak two, and the second, I only speak with marginal fluency–and I’m not even sure of that now).  But this claim boggles my mind.

How do you write romance novels in Turkish?  Must all their misunderstandings be unspoken?  I would cry for help, except I don’t speak Turkish, and so it’s no problem.
Does anyone know if this is true or not?

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